“…God? I’m still not married.” | A Guest Post from my husband
Faithful blog readers — after your feedback from “Its Time for a Breakup“, my husband, Michael, wanted to write in from a guys perspective of waiting for the right one.
Michael Writes… I’ve been thinking about marriage since I was in the 4th grade. By the age of 17, I was STILL NOT MARRIED and Y2K was coming – the world was possibly coming to an end – and I was still SINGLE. As ridiculous as it may sound, I prayed about the possibility of marrying Vanessa Muzzilo (my first girlfriend)– just in case the world did end – and told God, “it was a fail proof plan”. Hilarious.
The world did not end, so there was no need to repopulate the planet and secondly, what a dumb idea! God did not give me the wife I prayed for – and I was crushed.
I didn’t marry Vanessa and entered college and left college SINGLE. Doesn’t everyone meet their soul mate in college? Well, I didn’t – despite my lack of prayer and searching. I saw my friends marry off one by one after college – and there were times of strength and definitely times of loneliness and weakness. Had God forgotten me?
At the end of my time in college, I was ready to live out my faith and, as I indicated, get married. I told God, “I’m ready to be challenged to live out my faith and rely on you. God, if you have time put a beautiful German girl in my life because I’m not married (in case you haven’t noticed) and I’d like to be by the age or 25. Amen.”
The next four and a half years in Germany were not exactly the way I would have written them, but I wouldn’t forfeit a minute of my time there because of what God did in my heart and life. I have never experienced loneliness as intense as I did in a foreign country. What did that do for me? It taught me the meaning of the verse “whom have I in heaven but you?” Psalm 73:25. Once again, God took the pen from my hand and wrote a story that was truly amazing, including, in my fourth year coming back to the states and being introduced to a beautiful woman who I knew as a child. In fact we had played neighborhood baseball together. Her name was Ruthie.
At this point, I was starting to catch on and watched as the love of my life was revealed to me in the most amazing story ever! At the ripe old age of 29, my beautiful bride walked down the aisle towards me. 12 years after my prayer to marry Vanessa. Was God holding out on me all those years? Never! The Bible describes God as the ‘perfect Father’ and our perfect father gave me the greatest gift next to my salvation — my beautiful wife Ruthie. Not in my timing, but in His.
What if my version of the story had come true, what if I had forged ahead and taken God totally out of the picture? My life would be vastly different! I would have missed out on many, if not all of the great experiences that make me Michael Dean. Germany was the staging ground for my growth and development into the man God wanted for Ruthie. God knew what he was doing. My point is, let God write your story. Whenever we take the pen into our own hands, our hand writing and pictures we paint are a far cry from the masterpiece that he wants to make our lives into.
All good stories have drama, pain, joy and sadness in them, so don’t be surprised if yours does. Remember, we live in a fallen world. Our savior Jesus, however, has overcome the world. Our lives are too short not to trust the God of the universe, who created the galaxies but chooses to focus ALL his love and attention on us, because we are the objects of his affection. He writes beautiful, perfect stories – so let Him write yours. You won’t be disappointed.
Was it helpful to hear his journey? How does remembering God writes the best stories help you today?
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