Real Men Don’t Text | The Lost Art of Chivalry
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Welcome! Today we are hearing from both an expert on manliness (you should see his knife collection) & dating (he swept me off my feet), Michael Dean. Besides opening doors for me and making chocolate runs to satiate my cravings, he enjoys working on his car (Hubcap Hank), playing football, and adding ‘manly’ items to his Amazon shopping cart. Just this morning, he asked me to buy him a tomahawk for Christmas.
Please leave your comments below. Is he wrong? Women…we’d love to hear your thoughts, too.
There is a lost art these days, it is not ancient & it’s not French.
It is the lost art of Manliness and Chivalry. It is opening up a car door for women, even if they aren’t your wife. It is letting your wife, girlfriend, mother or sister go in through a door before you. It is standing when a woman leaves & returns to the table. It is taking off your hat inside. It is tucking in your shirt where necessary. It is calling a girl instead of texting (real men don’t text). And finally, it is having enough self-respect and respect for yourself as a man that you walk with your shoulders held back, not in intimidation, but in confidence; not in pride, but in humility. Your strength as a man can and should be offered to others. Manly strength is what this world needs so desperately.
Men, it is time to step up! Grow a pair, grow up, stop complaining, open your Bible, get a mentor, and get after it! I mean it. STEP IT UP! Be counted as a man who is going to make a difference. Get off the sofa, turn off that video game, shave, walk upright, and pursue a woman. I am tired of the men I see around me (not any of my friends in specific) who walk around with a chip on their shoulder in complete insecurity. They haven’t been shown the right way. The good way. The hard way.
Chivalry isn’t dead. Sure there are women who will give you what you want and not expect anything. But the kind of woman who will be a good mother to your children & challenge you isn’t going to settle for a text message instead of a call (women see: It’s Time for A Breakup). You’re going to need to have a job, embrace responsibility, and pursue her like she deserves! And texting and facebooking DOES NOT COUNT. If I hear of another guy trying to start a relationship by text-flirting I think I will punch a hole in the wall.
One of the best things I have been blessed with in my twenties has been a mentor. In the beginning, I had an older man pursue me, but as I have gotten older (30 years old in April) I have had to start pursuing older men asking their advice and giving them the right to speak into my life, call me out, and point out my faults. This doesn’t always feel good, but real men can take criticism and change.
The difference between a man who is floating through life and a man who is directional in life is the wake he leaves. Look behind you. If the wake of people behind you are not people who, if asked about you, would say “he really impacted me”, then it is time to get your act together!
I get a sneaking suspicion every time I read my wife’s blog or I meet another beautiful young woman who loves the Lord that the men are seriously outnumbered. The abundance of beautiful woman who are waiting for a man to lead them is staggering. Don’t give me that steaming pile of mulch excuse that “all the good ones are taken” because they aren’t. Give me a call & I’ll introduce you to one if I feel like you make the cut.
Be a man.
Get in the Word.
Pursue a woman!
Now women–what are you to do with the man who instead of calling you & asking you to dinner–texts you, “Headed out. Where R U?” You remove your fingers from the screen and read…Don’t Text Back [And Other Rules for Catching Mr. Right].
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