Our Favorite Relationship Questions
Thank you everyone who wrote in and asked a question this weekend about dating & relationships. We’re thrilled for our book, Real Men Don’t Text, and are grateful for each of your kind words.
And the winners are . . .Drum. Roll. Please.
Renee (Runner Up) ”So exciting! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and have really enjoyed hearing what you have to say!
I thought you could maybe speak to those who are still in the finding-someone phase. What about those who are single and want to be dating, but aren’t for whatever reason? Similar to texting laziness, it seems like many guys aren’t even taking those first steps to pursue women. In a generation where men don’t do as much of the initiating, how can a woman walk that fine line between making herself available/making her interest clear and letting the guy be the pursuer? And what happens when no one is pursuing? What can a woman who wants a guy to take the lead and pursue do to encourage godly men to do so?”
John Mark: “I’ve been reading ever since I read your post about texting, Michael. I’ve tried to call instead of texting, but I find that women seem to like texting better. Is texting ok as long as she’s ok with it? I feel like I’m making my dates feel uncomfortable when I text . . .”
Sam: “My question is this: how far physically and sexually should a dating relationship go and how quickly should things progress? I’ve always been told by youth pastors and preachers that premarital sex is a big no-no, but that brings up the question of what defines sex and who has the right to define it? And how does a Christian deal with it when the world is telling us that any kind of sex is okay?”
Bex: “What I think is so tricky for many Christian singles or people who want to “do it right” is that the world is saying to go to a bar and find a random hookup (who, if you’re lucky, will stick around), and the church is saying don’t look at a member of the opposite sex until your future spouse gets revealed to you. These are two extremes, of course, but I think a lot of us feel stuck. As a women, I believed for a long time that if I liked a guy, I had to wait silently (in my case, almost 2 years) to see if he would figure it out, because God forbid I come across as the initiator. For guys, I think there is a fear of rejection, and also of coming across the wrong way.
Where can we find balance, and how can a relationship start properly? (online dating aside)”
What great questions! I will either answer your questions in the book, in a future blog post, or comment below as time allows. If each of you would send me your address, I’ll mail you a Starbucks Gift Card just in time for the holidays! And Renee, I’ll send you something, too:)
On that note, I want to apologize in advance for not blogging as regularly between now and January 15 when our manuscript is due. Working full time + writing a book is a dream come true, but also 8 cups of coffee/day exhausting.
Michael and I are going to his parents house for Thanksgiving next week. What are your plans? What’s a tradition you have for Thanksgiving?
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- Stop Blaming Men for Your Singleness