“I’ve just come out of a bad relationship and I’m wondering if it’s too early to start dating again?”
“I was sexually abused as a child . . . and I didn’t realize until recently how much it affects my life. Do you have any advice?”
“My boyfriend pressured me to have sex with him and now I regret it, but don’t know how to tell him I want to stop without losing him. What should I do?”
Over the last year and a half of blogging, I’ve received many questions like this that absolutely break my heart. You’ve shared stories of abuse, broken relationships, heartbreak, depression, and I love that you feel safe enough to share your questions and struggles with me. What a true gift you are to me.
I honestly wish that I could see each of you weekly and walk through these difficult situations alongside you—but many times we bump up against hardship in life where seeing a trained professional is necessary. The reason I am where I am today and have found healing is by doing hours, weeks, months, and years of counseling—because at different points in my life, I needed someone to help me understand myself better and walk me through difficult situations. Will you consider seeking professional help?
If you are engaged to be married, struggling with an addiction, anxiety-ridden, fighting with your spouse, in broken family relationships, have been in an abusive relationship, or struggle with depression or thoughts of suicide—the absolute best thing you can do is see someone weekly to help you. The good news is I have the perfect person for you—my friend, Meg Kandros. She’s experienced in all of these areas and has her own private practice here in Nashville.
I’m recommending Meg because it’s so important to feel like the person you’re sharing your heart with “gets you”, isn’t it? She’s young and passionate about helping women hold onto hope in every circumstance. Michael works closely with Meg’s husband at church and I was honestly a little jealous of her job the first time I met her. She and I have similar passions—sharing truth with compassion into the lives of hurting women. Except she gets to go deeper than I ever can!
Before getting her masters in marriage and family therapy at Trevecca University, Meg Kandros worked for three years at the Hope Clinic where she served women facing the challenges of unplanned pregnancy and assisted them in making healthy life choices. Her experience in private practice includes helping singles and married couples work through anxiety, unhealthy relationships (whether opposite sex, family or friends), childhood trauma, shame, boundaries, troubled marriages, and pre-marital counseling. Many of the topics I talk about here on the blog.
I saw counselor when I was completely unglued and when I just needed someone to help me navigate some questions about marriage—so I want you to know help should not be reserved for just when you’ve crashed face first into depression or after you’ve quit your job or haven’t left your house for a week. Michael and I went through extensive pre-marital counseling and actually have someone on call whenever we need a little extra help talking through something. It is one of the absolute BEST ways you can love yourself well—and invest in your future.
So here’s my challenge to you today: invest in yourself and your future. If you are in a difficult situation and don’t know where to turn, try setting up a 15 minute free consultation with Meg. I seriously cannot recommend her enough!
And keep your questions coming—I absolutely love the emails! Let’s just make a deal that you’ll seek professional help when needed so I don’t have to worry about you too much, ok?
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