How *Not to Help All the Single Ladies | A Clarification
When this article popped up on the Christianity Today blog for women last week calling my post a ‘Cosmo checklist’, a prime example of how *not to help single women, I felt terrible! I want to apologize if my post 10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You made you feel at fault for your singleness. For every 1,000 posts and articles about how men are doing it all wrong, I thought we could use one post that focused on some of the common mistakes women make in dating. I’ve done my share of man-bashing on the blog, and I felt like it was time for us to take a look in the mirror. My intention was never to cause you pain or shame—but only to provide a helpful list from my research. Please forgive me if you felt blamed! Your singleness doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you (of course not!)—but I can see how some of you may have taken it this way. I sincerely apologize.
Miller’s post, How *Not to Help All the Single Ladies, quickly became a big hit over on the Her.menutics site—and I’ve been asked to share my thoughts on her post in combination with the recent article, The War on Men. It should be a good debate. Will you share your thoughts about The War on Men below? It’s caused some intense controversy and I’d love your input for the finishing touches of the article I’m writing.
My post this week is going to rustle some feathers, so I’d appreciate if you’d leave a comment;)
Have I told you lately how much I love each of you?!
I’m sorry if you’ve felt attacked in the past on this blog. Singleness is a sensitive topic for women and it’s easy for us to lash out about the lack of good men without thinking of your feelings. Good men do exist—you are one of them—and thank you for still reading and offering your valuable perspective. You are not the source of our problems and if we’ve ever made you feel differently, I’m sincerely sorry.
On another note, Michael completed his first Tough Mudder race this weekend. Check out that headband. So proud of him!
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- All the Single Ladies: Where have all the men gone?
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- 5 Reasons He Isn’t Calling
- Stop Blaming Men for Your Singleness