thoughts on hope & Valentine’s Day

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This is not at all how I would have written my story. I sat in the corner of a crowded restaurant, staring out the window. My heart stung from disappointment. I wanted something. I had a plan for my life. But it wasn’t working out. Months of hope that something would change was now coupled […]

5 Reasons He Isn’t Calling

Girl in field

The question “Why am I still single?” seems to plague my generation. Last week, Michael and I had an interview and the host shared that question from a woman in the audience. It’s a hard question to ask and an even harder one to answer. Are you defensive, hard to be around, sloppy, or caddy? […]

Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

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As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

Ambiguous Texts Don’t Have to Define Your Love Life

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Today’s post is from Michael Dean. For more on this topic, read Real Men Don’t Text. A USA Today study recently revealed how texting has quite literally blown up the dating culture. About a third of singles think it’s “less intimidating” to ask someone out over text, 78% of singles expect to text back and forth […]

When It Isn’t Clear He’s ‘the One’

is he the one?

“Dear Ruthie, I recently came across your post “How Do I Know if He’s The One?” and it really opened my eyes to my current relationship. When I see some of his personality I know that he probably isn’t the one that I should be with. But he is so selfless and is always putting […]

Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

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Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

You are Worth Loving

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Your friends are probably like mine in that they combat rejection with sayings like “You deserve better”; “You’re too good for him!”; “He’s crazy not to like ­you”—​­right? But rejection often makes us feel the ­opposite—​­like we are unworthy of love and will never be good enough for a man. Because if you have never […]

Your Love Isn’t Changing Him | Excerpt from Real Men Don’t Text

how you date and who you date matters. no exceptions

In high school, I went to a party, and the guys standing outside made us spin around to make sure we “qualified” to come in. Was being “hot” enough to get into a party what it felt like to be loved? Was the guy who showered me with attention all night and asked me to […]

He’s Not Intimidated | Excerpt from Real Men Don’t Text

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Michael speaks some great truth here to us women who love to make excuses for the men in our lives. It’s easier to make excuses than to admit that he just doesn’t like you, isn’t it? Ladies, men are simple, but you have spent centuries trying to understand ­us—​­when our intentions are generally clear. You […]

How Do I know if He’s the One?

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How do you know if the guy you’re dating is ‘the One’? Will you “just know”? The scary part about marriage is most people make this decision of gargantuan proportion in love, which by definition means your mind is hazy from all the 3am make-outs and sheer thrill thinking no one has ever loved like […]