On loneliness and love

loneliness

  I rushed home after work to exercise before it was time to cook dinner. On my walk, I talked to a friend and the conversation shifted to loneliness and how it feels when friends and lists are not filling up our time, leaving us ragged. It seems everyone is too busy, too tired, too maxed out–but […]

Dad knows the way home

Dad with child

How can we get through unbearable pain? I remember thinking, “I will never get over this.” There was no way out. I didn’t care that people told me, “When God closes a door, he opens a window” or any other nice sayings that belonged in threads on a pillow, not something that was actually going to help. […]

On empathy

holding hands

I was harboring a secret, until I couldn’t anymore. I told a friend my story in the bathroom of a pub of sorts. It was 2008 and we’d just watched Obama win the election. I didn’t know how she’d react. My mouth stuck together as I rambled on; I needed Chapstick. I wanted to be […]

Speak up, even if your voice shakes

speak the truth, even if your voice shakes

I was finishing up my morning workout at the gym when he spotted me. It wasn’t normal, the way his eyes lingered and gazed up and down my body. I looked at the floor and focused on my workout. He approached me and I felt panicky and breathless, trying to brush away concern. There were […]

A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

sexy selfie

  (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

The Poisonous Victim Mentality

girl sitting on bed

“Why me?” I asked the all-too familiar question followed by a bit of wallowing. I shuffled around the house, feeling sorry for myself, blaming my problems on anyone and everyone. It was my parents, my boss, my terrible circumstances—all of it made a list letting me off the hook. For years, I struggled with this […]

Is God Enough?

counseling

Have you ever felt like God just wasn’t enough? That His presence couldn’t solve your problems, nor assuage your deepest fears? I received an email from a reader and, with her permission, here is a portion of her question: “You mentioned in a few of your posts that you have seen a counselor.  Given your […]

Counseling Recommended

Importance of Counseling

“I’ve just come out of a bad relationship and I’m wondering if it’s too early to start dating again?”  “I was sexually abused as a child . . . and I didn’t realize until recently how much it affects my life. Do you have any advice?”  “My boyfriend pressured me to have sex with him […]

The Story of Addictions

snow scene

On Monday, we talked about faking happiness and today I want to discuss how pretending to be happy and have it all together actually keeps us from finding joy. The question for today: Do you want relief more than you want God? And since last night’s kickoff for Impact was such a success (come next week […]

Achy-Breaky Hearts | On Moving On

Breakup

I snatched my phone off the bedtime table, silenced the alarm, and slinked back under the covers. I don’t want to be human today. I don’t want to function. I can’t function. My boyfriend Jacob and I broke up the week before and the ending of our relationship made my heart hurt in places I’d […]