• Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to [...]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him [...]

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  • Waiting by the Phone

    10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You

    Wednesday, November 28, 2012

      What could possibly have gone wrong? I wondered, pondered, prayed, and even once yelled hoping my empty apartment would provide an answer. The date was perfect from my opinion, he even said he ‘couldn’t wait to see me again”. The first few days after the date, I entered an intense period of self-examination. The kind of [...]

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  • Vanderbilt/UT Game

    When You Marry the Wrong Guy

    Sunday, November 18, 2012

    On Saturday at the Vandy/UT game, I got in a fight, well not a fist fight, more like a verbal confrontation. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to punch the guy, but I did get to give him a piece of my mind. I’m still heated just thinking about it. My amazing father-in-law came in town and [...]

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  • Real Men Don't Text Video

    We’re Going to be Authors!!! | A Video Message

    Monday, November 12, 2012

    Michael and I are going to be authors! Real, published, coffee-addicted, “have you read my book?” authors. Can you believe it? Last February, Michael whisked me away to a chic hotel in downtown Nashville for what he called “a writing retreat”. We spent two days dreaming up what it would look like to write a [...]

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    Good People Don’t Go to Heaven

    Tuesday, May 8, 2012

      The wind circled the small coffee shop, rustling the leafless trees. “I’m a good person. I go to church pretty often. . .and even give up my weekends to volunteer,” she dropped the comment in mid-conversation. I gazed at my new friend, confused how we went from our favorite restaurants in Atlanta to that [...]

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  • playground

    Healing Shame

    Wednesday, April 18, 2012

      Lunchtime. 5th grade. {When is middle school ever easy?} My friend Caroline and I carry our lunches in brown paper bags outside to the playground. We talk about what fifth graders talk about: movies, boys, nail polish, and our (insert eye roll) exasperating teachers & parents. Then, we hear it. “Here comes fat big Ruth. [...]

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    Am I Worth Loving? | Wrestling with Rejection

    Monday, March 19, 2012

    In preparation to share my story at a Vanderbilt Greek retreat next weekend, I spent hours yesterday reading back through my college journals. Several themes emerged from the pages, but I mostly wrote about desiring love. And rejection that seemed around every corner. I find it intriguing that when asked about my college years, I [...]

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    What Now? | When Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Planned

    Wednesday, January 25, 2012

    Single way older than you ever imagined? Failed marriage? Dead-end job? Shattered dreams? In 2008, I joined a missions organization and moved across the globe to the land of population overload: China. I envisioned a year that was challenging, but overall filled with joy and fun times with my team and our Chinese friends. But nothing [...]

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    Don’t Text Back [And Other Rules for Catching Mr. Right]

    Tuesday, December 13, 2011

    Real Men Don’t Text was read by over 2,000 people. Thank you to everyone who read Michael’s post last week, shared it with friends, & commented. We were both blown away by the response. I’ve been observing, thinking, & praying how to follow up. A common thread I see is the incredible frustration among single women with [...]

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Michael and Ruthie
Jun
5

Laughter Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

With one year of marriage under our belts, Michael and I are far from pros. We are still stumbling our way towards deeper love and by no means have all the answers. However, we do know if there is anything that draws us closer and feeds our soul it is laughter. We celebrated our one year wedding [...]

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wedding
Jun
4

Our Joy is Only Beginning

One year ago today, I woke up next to my sister Rachel and spent the entire day at the beauty salon preparing for the moment I’d been waiting for: walking down the aisle towards my groom. The man I had waited for, prayed for, lost hope for, and finally found. This morning, I woke up [...]

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antique books
May
31

What’s Your Story, Morning Glory?

Wherever I go, I observe others and imagine their stories. I guess being an avid blogger and being in the business of story makes you attuned to the emotions of others. Just tonight, I was in line at the grocery store and a man weighing well over 500 pounds was in front of me. Buying [...]

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Woman Painting
May
28

Beautiful Portraits of Myself

Last Tuesday, I had not one, not two, but three hard conversations. They were all unrelated, but I would have been foolish to think it was by a mere coincidence. The details are unimportant, but what is important is I was confronted by friends about various ways I had hurt them. I crawled in bed [...]

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Library-5796
May
23

“Running Bear” | An Addition to Our Family

Today’s post is from my husband, Michael. The Dean Family has adopted a proud new member! Michael’s dream truck (1974 F350) came on the market and after we heard the back story–we knew it was meant to be. It’s loud, hard to park, & gas guzzling–everything an old truck should be. But it gives us [...]

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Image of Ignoring Spouse
May
21

Are You Ignoring God?

“My husband and I often goes days without speaking. The silence of our house is. . .devastating at times.” I overheard a woman telling a friend at a party. “I don’t even see how you could call what we have a marriage.” I continued to eavesdrop and learned she was thinking about divorce. No matter [...]

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Little kids dancing
May
15

The Very Important “N” Word

You know when it’s coming. It’s the man who lingered by your side all night at the bar. The coworker who finds any excuse to email you. The classmate who just won’t leave you alone. It’s never the men you want; often the mommas boys, the gangly awkward ones, or worse the you’re-lucky-I’m-asking-you-out type. Mr. [...]

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Pray for Ian Desiring God Video
May
13

This Momentary Marriage

Marriage. It feels like the end-all, be-all, but is it really? What if marriage is just temporary? I spent a lot of time with my friend Natalie this weekend & we naturally talked a great deal about marriage {she’s dating a great man!}. She asked for wisdom, asked what it was like, and wanted to [...]

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baby
May
12

Motherhood and the Unconditional Love of Christ

Happy Mother’s Day! In preparation for mother’s day, I asked a friend to write about becoming a new mom & what she learned about Christ’s love in the process. If you’re a mom, I pray you feel loved today. If mother’s day brings up tough memories, I pray you find strength in knowing God is [...]

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Image of landscape painting
May
8

Good People Don’t Go to Heaven

  The wind circled the small coffee shop, rustling the leafless trees. “I’m a good person. I go to church pretty often. . .and even give up my weekends to volunteer,” she dropped the comment in mid-conversation. I gazed at my new friend, confused how we went from our favorite restaurants in Atlanta to that [...]

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