• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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Overwhelmed Writer
Jan
22

Overwhelmed and Under-Qualified

“Hit send! Hit send!” Michael enthusiastically peered over my shoulder. On January 9th around 1am, we finished the first draft of Real Men Don’t Text. The flood of emotions of turning in your blood, sweat, and yes, tears, in the form of a 52,000 word document was exhilarating. Was this really happening? Are we really […]

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Couple Walking
Jan
17

Stop Praying. Start Asking. | Christian Men Need to Man Up and Date

Michael is the writer of today’s post. I’m really proud of him for conveying such a tough message! I was talking with a group of Christian men the other day and was given astonishing insight into the current dating scene. As I sat down with them to talk about life, I found something concerning: none […]

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Jan
14

Book Giveaway! The 5 Money Personalities

When Michael and I came home from our glorious honeymoon, we were awakened into the world of joint checking accounts. At first, it was hard to navigate how to spend money. Is it ok if I get Starbucks with friends? How will he respond when I pick up some shoes at the mall? Michael didn’t […]

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Jan
11

Stop Blaming Men for Your Singleness

I’ve been accused of many things on the web (don’t we bloggers subject ourselves to much criticism?), but two weeks ago saw a first: Regular Her.meneutics contributor Sharon Hodde Miller compared my personal blog post “10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You,” excerpted from the bookHave Him at Hello, to a “Cosmo checklist,” calling it a prime […]

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couple flirting
Jan
7

How do I Let a Man Know I’m Interested?

I was given an assignment by my sweet wife: a blog post. I figure she does two a week, I could manage to pull one together for this week. After our book announcement we received many questions from you, but the ones that stick out the most was “How do I get a man to […]

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Snowy Porch
Jan
1

A Word for 2013

Every year after the holiday hoopla is over, I spend time reflecting over the last year. This past year was full of rejoicing, but not without periods of fear and confusion. If the last year was characterized by one word, I think it would  be “SEE!” Landing a book deal was definitely the highlight, as […]

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Fireworks
Dec
28

Top 10 Posts of 2012

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas. Michael and I are holed up here at his parents house working on our manuscript. It’s wonderful to be around family this time of year and have some time off work. Also, I have an announcement! I have been chosen to be a featured writer for Prodigal Magazine. Very […]

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Love on Christmas
Dec
24

Merry Christmas!

On this busy Christmas Eve, may you take a moment today to rejoice in the birth of Our Savior. Nothing in all the world — not death, not sorrow, bad relationships, nor horrible mistakes — can separate us from His love. When we were helpless, Jesus came to earth for us. What a glorious Savior! […]

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Dec
19

40 and Single | One Man’s Story

Today we have a guest post from my friend, John Gunter. John loves his life in Asia, but misses his family, friends, church, baseball, and bar-b-que (in that order) immensely.  He enjoys scuba diving when the time and location permits. John blogs at http://johngunter.net. As we walked through a park in an unfamiliar city, it was a clear day.  She jumped right […]

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Emilie Parker Family
Dec
16

Emilie Parker

Dear Parker Family, I cannot fathom the depth of your agony over losing your daughter, Emilie. On Saturday, I heard her story and fought back tears until I couldn’t stand it anymore. I wept in the middle of the gym for little Emilie.  I wept that her little sisters won’t grow up with their big […]

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