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    stop quitting

    Monday, February 2, 2015

    We all have the tendency to be quitters. We quit when things get hard, quit when we don’t feel like it, quit when there’s opposition, and quit because it’s Tuesday. But why do we quit? Sometimes it’s because we allow people’s words to make us feel like we don’t have what it takes. Like we’re […]

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    big thighs, blue dresses, and self-love

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014

    Under the bright dressing-room lights at Target, I try on countless outfits. I am seven months pregnant. My body looks different now with new curves and indentions and a belly that swells each day. “I am really pregnant” I think and put on long blue dress, hoping it won’t look as bad as the others. I turn […]

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    What do you really want?

    Tuesday, July 29, 2014

    What do you really want? It is a husband? A job? A group of friends? A healthy baby? A certain life path? It’s a simple question, but one I think we avoid asking because we’re afraid of speaking aloud the answer. Because when we don’t want anything, then we can’t get our hopes up, which in […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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  • man giving flowers

    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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  • Bride and bridesmaid

    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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  • sexy selfie

    A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

    Wednesday, September 11, 2013

      (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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Jan
11

Stop Blaming Men for Your Singleness

I’ve been accused of many things on the web (don’t we bloggers subject ourselves to much criticism?), but two weeks ago saw a first: Regular Her.meneutics contributor Sharon Hodde Miller compared my personal blog post “10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You,” excerpted from the bookHave Him at Hello, to a “Cosmo checklist,” calling it a prime […]

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couple flirting
Jan
7

How do I Let a Man Know I’m Interested?

I was given an assignment by my sweet wife: a blog post. I figure she does two a week, I could manage to pull one together for this week. After our book announcement we received many questions from you, but the ones that stick out the most was “How do I get a man to […]

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Snowy Porch
Jan
1

A Word for 2013

Every year after the holiday hoopla is over, I spend time reflecting over the last year. This past year was full of rejoicing, but not without periods of fear and confusion. If the last year was characterized by one word, I think it would  be “SEE!” Landing a book deal was definitely the highlight, as […]

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Fireworks
Dec
28

Top 10 Posts of 2012

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas. Michael and I are holed up here at his parents house working on our manuscript. It’s wonderful to be around family this time of year and have some time off work. Also, I have an announcement! I have been chosen to be a featured writer for Prodigal Magazine. Very […]

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Love on Christmas
Dec
24

Merry Christmas!

On this busy Christmas Eve, may you take a moment today to rejoice in the birth of Our Savior. Nothing in all the world — not death, not sorrow, bad relationships, nor horrible mistakes — can separate us from His love. When we were helpless, Jesus came to earth for us. What a glorious Savior! […]

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Chinese character for love
Dec
19

40 and Single | One Man’s Story

Today we have a guest post from my friend, John Gunter. John loves his life in Asia, but misses his family, friends, church, baseball, and bar-b-que (in that order) immensely.  He enjoys scuba diving when the time and location permits. John blogs at http://johngunter.net. As we walked through a park in an unfamiliar city, it was a clear day.  She jumped right […]

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Emilie Parker Family
Dec
16

Emilie Parker

Dear Parker Family, I cannot fathom the depth of your agony over losing your daughter, Emilie. On Saturday, I heard her story and fought back tears until I couldn’t stand it anymore. I wept in the middle of the gym for little Emilie.  I wept that her little sisters won’t grow up with their big […]

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Celebrate
Dec
13

Learning to Celebrate

“The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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How We Met Story
Dec
11

Texting Gone Wrong | Will You Share Your Story?

Here’s your chance to be featured in Real Men Don’t Text. Michael and I are nearly done with the first draft of our manuscript(!!), but we feel it is lacking one essential element: YOU. Will you share your ‘Texting Gone Wrong’ story with us for the chance to be included in the book? We’re looking […]

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Be Kind for Everyone is Fighting a Harder Battle Quote
Dec
6

The Kindness of Strangers

I pulled up to the coffeehouse drive-through window and the barista handed me my favorite drink in exchange for my credit card. “Wow. You have gorgeous hair!” I said noticing her thick, shiny blond hair that danced around her round face. She did not appear to hear me and turned to the machine to swipe […]

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