• Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to [...]

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    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him [...]

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  • Waiting by the Phone

    10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You

    Wednesday, November 28, 2012

      What could possibly have gone wrong? I wondered, pondered, prayed, and even once yelled hoping my empty apartment would provide an answer. The date was perfect from my opinion, he even said he ‘couldn’t wait to see me again”. The first few days after the date, I entered an intense period of self-examination. The kind of [...]

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  • Vanderbilt/UT Game

    When You Marry the Wrong Guy

    Sunday, November 18, 2012

    On Saturday at the Vandy/UT game, I got in a fight, well not a fist fight, more like a verbal confrontation. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to punch the guy, but I did get to give him a piece of my mind. I’m still heated just thinking about it. My amazing father-in-law came in town and [...]

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  • Real Men Don't Text Video

    We’re Going to be Authors!!! | A Video Message

    Monday, November 12, 2012

    Michael and I are going to be authors! Real, published, coffee-addicted, “have you read my book?” authors. Can you believe it? Last February, Michael whisked me away to a chic hotel in downtown Nashville for what he called “a writing retreat”. We spent two days dreaming up what it would look like to write a [...]

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    Good People Don’t Go to Heaven

    Tuesday, May 8, 2012

      The wind circled the small coffee shop, rustling the leafless trees. “I’m a good person. I go to church pretty often. . .and even give up my weekends to volunteer,” she dropped the comment in mid-conversation. I gazed at my new friend, confused how we went from our favorite restaurants in Atlanta to that [...]

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    Healing Shame

    Wednesday, April 18, 2012

      Lunchtime. 5th grade. {When is middle school ever easy?} My friend Caroline and I carry our lunches in brown paper bags outside to the playground. We talk about what fifth graders talk about: movies, boys, nail polish, and our (insert eye roll) exasperating teachers & parents. Then, we hear it. “Here comes fat big Ruth. [...]

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    Am I Worth Loving? | Wrestling with Rejection

    Monday, March 19, 2012

    In preparation to share my story at a Vanderbilt Greek retreat next weekend, I spent hours yesterday reading back through my college journals. Several themes emerged from the pages, but I mostly wrote about desiring love. And rejection that seemed around every corner. I find it intriguing that when asked about my college years, I [...]

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    What Now? | When Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Planned

    Wednesday, January 25, 2012

    Single way older than you ever imagined? Failed marriage? Dead-end job? Shattered dreams? In 2008, I joined a missions organization and moved across the globe to the land of population overload: China. I envisioned a year that was challenging, but overall filled with joy and fun times with my team and our Chinese friends. But nothing [...]

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    Don’t Text Back [And Other Rules for Catching Mr. Right]

    Tuesday, December 13, 2011

    Real Men Don’t Text was read by over 2,000 people. Thank you to everyone who read Michael’s post last week, shared it with friends, & commented. We were both blown away by the response. I’ve been observing, thinking, & praying how to follow up. A common thread I see is the incredible frustration among single women with [...]

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Apr
2

But First, Coffee | On Growing a Marriage

  “Really?” I spouted out the bathroom door, glad Michael couldn’t see my rolling eyes. “Sweetheart. It’s just something I want to discuss.” Michael replied in his usual level-headed manner. “I can’t. . .I won’t. . .uhh, can we just talk about this later?” I almost couldn’t get the words out because of the building [...]

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Mar
29

An Uncluttered Life | Passage from Jesus Calling

  “Stop trying to work things out before their times have come. Accept the limitations of living one day at a time. When something comes to your attention, ask Me whether or not it is part of today’s agenda. If it isn’t, release it into My care and go on with today’s duties. When you [...]

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Mar
28

Fistful of Ashes | What are You Holding?

What do you love? Who do you love? For me, I love my husband more than anyone in the world. I love my family. I have some very dear friends that I love deeply. I also love to plan the future. I love writing and hope to grow this blog to 10,000 followers by January [...]

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Mar
26

You’re Going to be O.K.

My emotions grabbed my heart. I sobbed uncontrollably. Hiding in a dark office, the feelings were all too familiar. The unanswered questions about Michael’s health left me ridden with anxiety and fear. The mile high medical bills seemed to remind me at every turn of my inadequacy. The uncertainty of the future turned my focus [...]

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Mar
21

Give the Fat Girl a Break : On Telling Yourself the Truth

After publishing Am I Worth Loving? Wrestling with Rejection, I have sifted through emails and comments from many and even cried over one. I cannot express how it hurts me to see you suffering and on top of all that suffering believing lies about yourself. My college journals reveal several lies I wrote about myself [...]

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Mar
19

Am I Worth Loving? | Wrestling with Rejection

In preparation to share my story at a Vanderbilt Greek retreat next weekend, I spent hours yesterday reading back through my college journals. Several themes emerged from the pages, but I mostly wrote about desiring love. And rejection that seemed around every corner. I find it intriguing that when asked about my college years, I [...]

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Mar
14

“100 Reasons Why I Like You” : A Love Story

“100 Reasons Why I Like You”—the email subject line that popped up on the screen was enough to make her stop and nearly squeal in anticipation. She turned on her favorite song to “set the mood” and started reading. “I like how incredibly intelligent you are. I like how your intelligence is coupled with amazing humility. [...]

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Mar
9

God is a good Dad

“There are several concerning areas of inflammation on both the brain stem and the spinal cord.” The room started to spin. Dr. Lee continued, but his words fell on deaf ears. All I could hear was something was wrong with my husband. Seriously wrong. I tried to muffle my tears/snot/sobbing so he could finish…. “Do [...]

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Mar
5

E.R. Visits & Companions for Life

Last Tuesday started off like most Tuesdays do. Michael slept in after his late night drive back from Atlanta; I worked out in the morning and headed off to work around 7:45. The weather was beautiful and sunshine filled my heart. But at 2:00, Michael called and said he was headed to the ER. He [...]

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Mar
1

You May Not Have an Answer, but You Always Have a Song

There comes a time when it’s time to stop trying to understand God. Two years ago, Michael and I drove into Italy to celebrate my birthday (I was visiting him in Germany) and as we sped along the Autobahn we started talking about a hard situation that still weighed on me. I didn’t understand how a loving God [...]

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