• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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Nov
4

The Danger and Beauty of Friendship

“If you say that one more time, I’m going to be angry,” she said, and seemed to grip the steering wheel a little tighter. “Say what?” I asked and she reminded me of a very important part of Chinese culture that slipped my mind. Saying, “thank you”, especially repeatedly, is basically like saying, “I know […]

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Wine Country
Oct
31

A Race through Wine Country

“My goal is not to win the race, rank the highest, push the hardest, or stay up the latest.” I told my friend, almost regretting the words. We live in a culture where the busiest person wins, where if you want to accomplish your dreams, you need to squeeze in your passion between working 50 […]

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Oct
24

Patchwork Brokenness

I’ve prayed a lot lately, attempting to reach God over the noisiness of my life. Last Sunday, I finally felt like He turned down the volume around me and sat with me. Just right next to me on the sofa. After a while, I felt His quiet voice–not scolding me for not doing as I’m […]

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Oversharing
Oct
21

Are you Oversharing?

Ok, if you’re rolling your eyes, I don’t blame you. This post should probably not be written by a blogger. For we are, by definition, complete oversharers. So what do I know?! I’m still an oversharer when it comes to friends (sorry, to all of you who learned more than you wanted to about me […]

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Oct
18

What is Your “Calling”?

  I arrived home and ran over to the table, seeing my new shipment of books had arrived. Andy Stanley’s newest book, Deep and Wide, was inside the package. I started reading. By chapter two, I was crying. We’ll save that story for another blog post—it’s a hard back story to tell and when I write […]

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Woman with Words
Oct
14

Was God Rolling His Eyes at Me?

“How dare you call yourself a missionary. You’re disgraceful,” she said and slammed the door. My eyes brimmed with tears. In the heat of the moment, I had said some terrible things I didn’t mean. As soon as my rampage was over, I felt an enormous flood of guilt. What is wrong with me? What […]

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Oct
10

How to Keep a Guy in 10 Ways

You will not believe how many of these ways I didn’t learn until after marriage. Like, for example, saying exactly what I meant and asking for what I wanted–instead of hoping Michael would magically read my mind. He’s not going to imagine that I want him to help me clean the house, unless I ask […]

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How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
Oct
7

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Ways

 I sat down at Starbucks to write a blog post next to a table of women complaining about men while wearing fake mustaches. Ah perfect. As Michael snapped a picture of them (pretending to take a picture of my stunning profile . . .read: sarcasm), I decided to write a post about ‘how to lose a guy’. I’m […]

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Emotional Abuse
Oct
4

You’re Not the Problem—He Is | Signs of Emotional Abuse

For one friend it looked like her boyfriend loved her so much he wanted to know where she was at all times. For another, a kind man who just wanted to take stress off his girlfriend (asking her to quit her job & stay home). For yet another friend, her relationship seemed to change her […]

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Sep
30

The Illusive Armchair of Happiness

  We all have longings. Dreams and goals that keep us pushing forward, staying up late at night, and striving for more. Everyone one of us wants something better than what we have and who we are right now. But have you ever achieved or received exactly what you’ve always wanted—only to wake up the […]

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