• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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Real Men Don't Text
Sep
26

Real Men Don’t Text | A Video Message

Texting is for hooking up, not for finding meaningful relationships. And Real Men Don’t Text. We’ve told you this before, but from all the emails, comments, and feedback we’ve received since Michael told men to get off the sofa, turn off the video game, and pursue a woman and I told women how we fuel the […]

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Image of Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride
Sep
23

“OHHHH. IS THIS YOUR FIRST BABY?”

I am pregnant?! My muddled thoughts came screeching to this conclusion. The morning sickness, the “weight gain”, the craving for sweets—I’m definitely pregnant. Enter panic from stage left. You know in Runaway Bride when she’s about to actually make it down the isle, starts to panic, and her best friend gives her a brown paper bag […]

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Image of Sisters
Sep
17

sparkly shoes & sisters

   My sister Rachel came to visit us in Nashville this weekend which brought me to the realization that I’ve never told you about my wonderful sisters. Rachel is currently living in Turkey teaching English, which means she lives where Santa Claus was born (who knew?!) and has a proposal story concerning her and a […]

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Sep
12

The Story of Addictions

On Monday, we talked about faking happiness and today I want to discuss how pretending to be happy and have it all together actually keeps us from finding joy. The question for today: Do you want relief more than you want God? And since last night’s kickoff for Impact was such a success (come next week […]

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God Doesn't...
Sep
10

God Doesn’t Want You to Fake It

I’m good at faking it. I used to sit in groups of women laughing and discussing life—like I too, didn’t have any more to worry about than the latest breakup stories or how to shop organic on a budget.  I was funny, charming, confident, engaging—everything I was ‘supposed’ to be. My greatest fear sitting in […]

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Impact at the Well in Nashville
Sep
6

Calling all Nashville Singles!

  I’m so proud of him. My wonderful husband was promoted this summer and is now the Director of Singles Ministry at West End Community Church. We are thrilled with his new role. On one of our Sunday coffee dates, we visited this new coffee shop called The Well and brainstormed  how to make a weekly gathering less […]

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The Reason by William Sirls Cover Image
Sep
4

From Prisoner to Novelist {A Book Giveaway}

Hope everyone had a nice Labor Day. Michael and I celebrated his dad’s 60th birthday and the best part was hearing all the stories from people of ways he’d impacted them. We love you Mike Dean! Today, The Reason is available everywhere books are sold. I’m doing something special with this book. I want to […]

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The Notebook Rain Scene
Aug
30

Prince Charming Cardboard Cutouts

“He’s just not who I pictured myself marrying” a friend recently told me after she just told me all the reasons her man was marriage material. “Wait—why? What do you mean?” I asked confused. “Well, I just keep trying to find flaws in him and poke holes in our relationship. He’s just not tall and […]

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Michael and Ruthie at the beach
Aug
26

We’re All Sinking | The Real Message of Grace

Michael and I went to the  beach with my family and had the best time! My cousin has a new little baby and he is just the sweetest little guy. The beach always reminds me of God’s goodness and grace–and I try to remember every time I see the ocean just how far He’s carried […]

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Aug
19

(Don’t be) Satisfied with Singleness

Once you are content with your singleness and grasp that God may call you to be single forever—then, and only then, will God bring you a spouse. When you surrender your desire to get married (i.e. cut your heart out) then God will fulfill your desire for a family. How many of you have heard […]

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