• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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Impact at the Well in Nashville

Calling all Nashville Singles!

  I’m so proud of him. My wonderful husband was promoted this summer and is now the Director of Singles Ministry at West End Community Church. We are thrilled with his new role. On one of our Sunday coffee dates, we visited this new coffee shop called The Well and brainstormed  how to make a weekly gathering less […]

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From Prisoner to Novelist {A Book Giveaway}

Hope everyone had a nice Labor Day. Michael and I celebrated his dad’s 60th birthday and the best part was hearing all the stories from people of ways he’d impacted them. We love you Mike Dean! Today, The Reason is available everywhere books are sold. I’m doing something special with this book. I want to […]

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Prince Charming Cardboard Cutouts

“He’s just not who I pictured myself marrying” a friend recently told me after she just told me all the reasons her man was marriage material. “Wait—why? What do you mean?” I asked confused. “Well, I just keep trying to find flaws in him and poke holes in our relationship. He’s just not tall and […]

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We’re All Sinking | The Real Message of Grace

Michael and I went to the  beach with my family and had the best time! My cousin has a new little baby and he is just the sweetest little guy. The beach always reminds me of God’s goodness and grace–and I try to remember every time I see the ocean just how far He’s carried […]

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(Don’t be) Satisfied with Singleness

Once you are content with your singleness and grasp that God may call you to be single forever—then, and only then, will God bring you a spouse. When you surrender your desire to get married (i.e. cut your heart out) then God will fulfill your desire for a family. How many of you have heard […]

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The Seemingly Meaningless Moments

My eyelids were heavy from days with little sleep, but I didn’t dare close my eyes on that bus. The cast of characters aboard the Greyhound left me uneasy, holding my knees tightly to my chest and avoiding eye contact. A woman alone can never be too careful. I was Nashville-bound to see my friend […]

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Surfing for God

Surfing for God | A Book Giveaway!

Today, Michael is guest posting about one of his new favorite books and we’re giving copies away! All you have to do is share this post on Facebook or Twitter (make sure you tag me, so I can see you shared) for a chance to win a copy. What if a lust for porn were […]

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Big Decisions, Olympics, Chocolate Ice Cream, and Dreams Come True

I made a big decision that summer. My parents gave me the choice to go back to camp with my old friends or go to camp earlier in the summer—with all new people—so I could be home to watch the 1996 Olympics. In my hometown.  For an 11-year-old who did not easily make friends coupled […]

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How do you call yourself a Christian?

If they knew my inadequacies, struggles with sin, and who I really am— Oh they’d never love me. In college, I was riddled with fear over people finding out ‘the real me’.  At times, I still am. I wear masks of self-sufficiency and carefree elation. I want everyone to know that I’m a sinner, but […]

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Will He come? | A Story of Forgotten Past

She ran. Adrenaline pumping. Darkness. Heavy footsteps behind reminded her what was at stake. What do they want from me? Why are they chasing me?  Slam. A mysterious man grabbed her arm thrusting her body against the cold pavement. The next moments were all shadows–voices took her pursue, stripped her naked, and kicked her as […]

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