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    stop quitting

    Monday, February 2, 2015

    We all have the tendency to be quitters. We quit when things get hard, quit when we don’t feel like it, quit when there’s opposition, and quit because it’s Tuesday. But why do we quit? Sometimes it’s because we allow people’s words to make us feel like we don’t have what it takes. Like we’re […]

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    big thighs, blue dresses, and self-love

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014

    Under the bright dressing-room lights at Target, I try on countless outfits. I am seven months pregnant. My body looks different now with new curves and indentions and a belly that swells each day. “I am really pregnant” I think and put on long blue dress, hoping it won’t look as bad as the others. I turn […]

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  • girl with a map

    What do you really want?

    Tuesday, July 29, 2014

    What do you really want? It is a husband? A job? A group of friends? A healthy baby? A certain life path? It’s a simple question, but one I think we avoid asking because we’re afraid of speaking aloud the answer. Because when we don’t want anything, then we can’t get our hopes up, which in […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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  • man giving flowers

    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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  • couple on a bench

    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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  • Texting

    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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  • Bride and bridesmaid

    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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  • sexy selfie

    A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

    Wednesday, September 11, 2013

      (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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snow scene
Sep
12

The Story of Addictions

On Monday, we talked about faking happiness and today I want to discuss how pretending to be happy and have it all together actually keeps us from finding joy. The question for today: Do you want relief more than you want God? And since last night’s kickoff for Impact was such a success (come next week […]

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God Doesn't...
Sep
10

God Doesn’t Want You to Fake It

I’m good at faking it. I used to sit in groups of women laughing and discussing life—like I too, didn’t have any more to worry about than the latest breakup stories or how to shop organic on a budget.  I was funny, charming, confident, engaging—everything I was ‘supposed’ to be. My greatest fear sitting in […]

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Impact at the Well in Nashville
Sep
6

Calling all Nashville Singles!

  I’m so proud of him. My wonderful husband was promoted this summer and is now the Director of Singles Ministry at West End Community Church. We are thrilled with his new role. On one of our Sunday coffee dates, we visited this new coffee shop called The Well and brainstormed  how to make a weekly gathering less […]

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The Reason by William Sirls Cover Image
Sep
4

From Prisoner to Novelist {A Book Giveaway}

Hope everyone had a nice Labor Day. Michael and I celebrated his dad’s 60th birthday and the best part was hearing all the stories from people of ways he’d impacted them. We love you Mike Dean! Today, The Reason is available everywhere books are sold. I’m doing something special with this book. I want to […]

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The Notebook Rain Scene
Aug
30

Prince Charming Cardboard Cutouts

“He’s just not who I pictured myself marrying” a friend recently told me after she just told me all the reasons her man was marriage material. “Wait—why? What do you mean?” I asked confused. “Well, I just keep trying to find flaws in him and poke holes in our relationship. He’s just not tall and […]

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Michael and Ruthie at the beach
Aug
26

We’re All Sinking | The Real Message of Grace

Michael and I went to the  beach with my family and had the best time! My cousin has a new little baby and he is just the sweetest little guy. The beach always reminds me of God’s goodness and grace–and I try to remember every time I see the ocean just how far He’s carried […]

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Facebook Relationship Status
Aug
19

(Don’t be) Satisfied with Singleness

Once you are content with your singleness and grasp that God may call you to be single forever—then, and only then, will God bring you a spouse. When you surrender your desire to get married (i.e. cut your heart out) then God will fulfill your desire for a family. How many of you have heard […]

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Nashville skyline
Aug
12

The Seemingly Meaningless Moments

My eyelids were heavy from days with little sleep, but I didn’t dare close my eyes on that bus. The cast of characters aboard the Greyhound left me uneasy, holding my knees tightly to my chest and avoiding eye contact. A woman alone can never be too careful. I was Nashville-bound to see my friend […]

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Surfing for God
Aug
10

Surfing for God | A Book Giveaway!

Today, Michael is guest posting about one of his new favorite books and we’re giving copies away! All you have to do is share this post on Facebook or Twitter (make sure you tag me, so I can see you shared) for a chance to win a copy. What if a lust for porn were […]

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1996 women's gymnastics team
Aug
7

Big Decisions, Olympics, Chocolate Ice Cream, and Dreams Come True

I made a big decision that summer. My parents gave me the choice to go back to camp with my old friends or go to camp earlier in the summer—with all new people—so I could be home to watch the 1996 Olympics. In my hometown.  For an 11-year-old who did not easily make friends coupled […]

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