• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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May
21

Are You Ignoring God?

“My husband and I often goes days without speaking. The silence of our house is. . .devastating at times.” I overheard a woman telling a friend at a party. “I don’t even see how you could call what we have a marriage.” I continued to eavesdrop and learned she was thinking about divorce. No matter […]

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May
15

The Very Important “N” Word

You know when it’s coming. It’s the man who lingered by your side all night at the bar. The coworker who finds any excuse to email you. The classmate who just won’t leave you alone. It’s never the men you want; often the mommas boys, the gangly awkward ones, or worse the you’re-lucky-I’m-asking-you-out type. Mr. […]

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Pray for Ian Desiring God Video
May
13

This Momentary Marriage

Marriage. It feels like the end-all, be-all, but is it really? What if marriage is just temporary? I spent a lot of time with my friend Natalie this weekend & we naturally talked a great deal about marriage {she’s dating a great man!}. She asked for wisdom, asked what it was like, and wanted to […]

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May
12

Motherhood and the Unconditional Love of Christ

Happy Mother’s Day! In preparation for mother’s day, I asked a friend to write about becoming a new mom & what she learned about Christ’s love in the process. If you’re a mom, I pray you feel loved today. If mother’s day brings up tough memories, I pray you find strength in knowing God is […]

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May
8

Good People Don’t Go to Heaven

  The wind circled the small coffee shop, rustling the leafless trees. “I’m a good person. I go to church pretty often. . .and even give up my weekends to volunteer,” she dropped the comment in mid-conversation. I gazed at my new friend, confused how we went from our favorite restaurants in Atlanta to that […]

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May
7

Mr. Late Night & Mr. Last Minute

Mr. Late Night It may start innocently at first, a late rendezvous here and there, but pretty soon the only time you’re spending together is after dark. It used to be a booty call, but now it’s more frequently a “booty text”. {creative, right?} If you ever receive a text message late at night that consists […]

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It's a Wonderful Life
May
1

Mr. Promised He Would Call & Mr. Inconsistent

Let’s talk about relationships, shall we? I continue to hear a wealth of stories about women cashing in their ticket for a lifetime with Mr. Right because they settle for Mr. Right Now. Heartbreaking! If you’re new here, I suggest reading Real Men Don’t Text and Real Women Don’t Text Back to gain context for […]

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Apr
29

Running is Redemption

On Saturday, thousands of people–runners, people that would qualify as ‘elderly’, costume-clad individuals, & even non-athletes–awoke before dawn and gathered around Centeniel Park for the annual Country Music Marathon and Half Marathon. Adrenaline & the god-aweful smell from the porta potties wafted over the streets; people checked their watches obsessively counting down ’til race time; […]

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Mrs. Wrong--Kids kissing
Apr
26

You’re Dating Mrs. Wrong If. . .

Gentlemen, it is a pleasure to write to you today. This is not coming from a man who has it right, has done it all right, or will do it right in the future. This is coming from experience, and that experience has taught me a few things about relationships, women, the type of woman […]

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Mr. Wrong Book
Apr
23

You’re Dating Mr. Wrong If. . .

Have you ever looked back and considered what your life would be like had you tied the knot with an ex? Thought about how much you wished it worked out with him at the time—but now are thankful the relationship ended? I have. It’s scares me to think about the guys I seriously dated & […]

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