• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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wedding
Jun
4

Our Joy is Only Beginning

One year ago today, I woke up next to my sister Rachel and spent the entire day at the beauty salon preparing for the moment I’d been waiting for: walking down the aisle towards my groom. The man I had waited for, prayed for, lost hope for, and finally found. This morning, I woke up […]

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May
31

What’s Your Story, Morning Glory?

Wherever I go, I observe others and imagine their stories. I guess being an avid blogger and being in the business of story makes you attuned to the emotions of others. Just tonight, I was in line at the grocery store and a man weighing well over 500 pounds was in front of me. Buying […]

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Woman Painting
May
28

Beautiful Portraits of Myself

Last Tuesday, I had not one, not two, but three hard conversations. They were all unrelated, but I would have been foolish to think it was by a mere coincidence. The details are unimportant, but what is important is I was confronted by friends about various ways I had hurt them. I crawled in bed […]

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Library-5796
May
23

“Running Bear” | An Addition to Our Family

Today’s post is from my husband, Michael. The Dean Family has adopted a proud new member! Michael’s dream truck (1974 F350) came on the market and after we heard the back story–we knew it was meant to be. It’s loud, hard to park, & gas guzzling–everything an old truck should be. But it gives us […]

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May
21

Are You Ignoring God?

“My husband and I often goes days without speaking. The silence of our house is. . .devastating at times.” I overheard a woman telling a friend at a party. “I don’t even see how you could call what we have a marriage.” I continued to eavesdrop and learned she was thinking about divorce. No matter […]

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May
15

The Very Important “N” Word

You know when it’s coming. It’s the man who lingered by your side all night at the bar. The coworker who finds any excuse to email you. The classmate who just won’t leave you alone. It’s never the men you want; often the mommas boys, the gangly awkward ones, or worse the you’re-lucky-I’m-asking-you-out type. Mr. […]

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Pray for Ian Desiring God Video
May
13

This Momentary Marriage

Marriage. It feels like the end-all, be-all, but is it really? What if marriage is just temporary? I spent a lot of time with my friend Natalie this weekend & we naturally talked a great deal about marriage {she’s dating a great man!}. She asked for wisdom, asked what it was like, and wanted to […]

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baby
May
12

Motherhood and the Unconditional Love of Christ

Happy Mother’s Day! In preparation for mother’s day, I asked a friend to write about becoming a new mom & what she learned about Christ’s love in the process. If you’re a mom, I pray you feel loved today. If mother’s day brings up tough memories, I pray you find strength in knowing God is […]

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May
8

Good People Don’t Go to Heaven

  The wind circled the small coffee shop, rustling the leafless trees. “I’m a good person. I go to church pretty often. . .and even give up my weekends to volunteer,” she dropped the comment in mid-conversation. I gazed at my new friend, confused how we went from our favorite restaurants in Atlanta to that […]

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May
7

Mr. Late Night & Mr. Last Minute

Mr. Late Night It may start innocently at first, a late rendezvous here and there, but pretty soon the only time you’re spending together is after dark. It used to be a booty call, but now it’s more frequently a “booty text”. {creative, right?} If you ever receive a text message late at night that consists […]

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