• Real Men Don't Text

    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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  • Celebrate

    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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Apr
29

Running is Redemption

On Saturday, thousands of people–runners, people that would qualify as ‘elderly’, costume-clad individuals, & even non-athletes–awoke before dawn and gathered around Centeniel Park for the annual Country Music Marathon and Half Marathon. Adrenaline & the god-aweful smell from the porta potties wafted over the streets; people checked their watches obsessively counting down ’til race time; […]

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Mrs. Wrong--Kids kissing
Apr
26

You’re Dating Mrs. Wrong If. . .

Gentlemen, it is a pleasure to write to you today. This is not coming from a man who has it right, has done it all right, or will do it right in the future. This is coming from experience, and that experience has taught me a few things about relationships, women, the type of woman […]

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Mr. Wrong Book
Apr
23

You’re Dating Mr. Wrong If. . .

Have you ever looked back and considered what your life would be like had you tied the knot with an ex? Thought about how much you wished it worked out with him at the time—but now are thankful the relationship ended? I have. It’s scares me to think about the guys I seriously dated & […]

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Girl in a field
Apr
20

Chin Up Buttercup | On Choosing Joy

“I want a life that sizzles and pops and makes me laugh out loud. And I don’t want to get to the end, or to tomorrow, even, and realize that my life is a collection of meetings and pop cans and errands and receipts and dirty dishes. I want to eat cold tangerines and sing […]

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playground
Apr
18

Healing Shame

  Lunchtime. 5th grade. {When is middle school ever easy?} My friend Caroline and I carry our lunches in brown paper bags outside to the playground. We talk about what fifth graders talk about: movies, boys, nail polish, and our (insert eye roll) exasperating teachers & parents. Then, we hear it. “Here comes fat big Ruth. […]

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mustache party
Apr
16

A Mustache-Themed Party

Michael entered a new decade this weekend and nothing would have welcomed him into his 30s better than a surprise mustache-themed party. I only allow him to grow a mustache during “Movember” & he seems to have latched onto the idea that mustaches = manliness. Event planning is not necessarily my strongest gift, but I […]

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Apr
10

New Site & Easter Pictures

Hi Friends & Blog-Followers! I’m thrilled with my new website. Hopefully, you will find it easy to navigate & calming with the airy, open feel. I do hope that you are still subscribed, but if you usually get my posts via email and did not please subscribe using the link on the right. We had […]

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Apr
5

Waiting at the Tomb | Where are you Mourning?

Growing up a true Southern girl, Easter was always celebrated & church attendance was mandatory. All those years—I heard the same message. Jesus died a brutal death on a Cross, forgave his enemies in his suffering, and was buried in a tomb. After three days, resurrection burst forth from the burial-place and Jesus walked among […]

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Apr
2

But First, Coffee | On Growing a Marriage

  “Really?” I spouted out the bathroom door, glad Michael couldn’t see my rolling eyes. “Sweetheart. It’s just something I want to discuss.” Michael replied in his usual level-headed manner. “I can’t. . .I won’t. . .uhh, can we just talk about this later?” I almost couldn’t get the words out because of the building […]

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Peace quote
Mar
29

An Uncluttered Life | Passage from Jesus Calling

  “Stop trying to work things out before their times have come. Accept the limitations of living one day at a time. When something comes to your attention, ask Me whether or not it is part of today’s agenda. If it isn’t, release it into My care and go on with today’s duties. When you […]

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