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    stop quitting

    Monday, February 2, 2015

    We all have the tendency to be quitters. We quit when things get hard, quit when we don’t feel like it, quit when there’s opposition, and quit because it’s Tuesday. But why do we quit? Sometimes it’s because we allow people’s words to make us feel like we don’t have what it takes. Like we’re […]

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    big thighs, blue dresses, and self-love

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014

    Under the bright dressing-room lights at Target, I try on countless outfits. I am seven months pregnant. My body looks different now with new curves and indentions and a belly that swells each day. “I am really pregnant” I think and put on long blue dress, hoping it won’t look as bad as the others. I turn […]

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    What do you really want?

    Tuesday, July 29, 2014

    What do you really want? It is a husband? A job? A group of friends? A healthy baby? A certain life path? It’s a simple question, but one I think we avoid asking because we’re afraid of speaking aloud the answer. Because when we don’t want anything, then we can’t get our hopes up, which in […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

    Wednesday, September 11, 2013

      (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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Dec
28

Top 10 of 2011

I cannot believe this year is coming to an end. In 2011, I married the love of my life, started working in a publishing house, and started this blog. I am grateful to each of my faithful readers and am continually overwhelmed by the kind words of encouragement from you. Would you leave a comment […]

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Dec
21

The Story of Christmas | Ordinary People, Extraordinary God

Christmas is upon us. On Monday, I drew your attention to the innkeeper in the story of Jesus. In the midst of busyness and responsibility, he lost a prominent role in the story of Jesus. Today, I want to highlight the common denominator between the players in the Christmas story. The Savior of the World—one who would rise […]

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Dec
19

No Room in the Inn | Are you Listening?

“And it came to pass in those days that a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be registered.” The Christmas story begins. “All the world”—everyone needed to travel to their perspective hometowns and register—the first time the Roman world had undergone a census. So men and women, old and young, […]

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Dec
16

Red Flags, Giving Grace, and Sleeping Husbands

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” The Notebook. Michael and I have enjoyed all the feedback we’ve received from Real […]

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Dec
13

Don’t Text Back [And Other Rules for Catching Mr. Right]

Real Men Don’t Text was read by over 2,000 people. Thank you to everyone who read Michael’s post last week, shared it with friends, & commented. We were both blown away by the response. I’ve been observing, thinking, & praying how to follow up. A common thread I see is the incredible frustration among single women with […]

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Dec
7

Real Men Don’t Text | The Lost Art of Chivalry

Real Men Don’t Text is now a book! After more than a million people read this post, we turned it into a full book of dating advice. Available from all major retailers. Click here to watch the book trailer, read a sample, or purchase your copy. http://www.realmendonttext.com/ Welcome! Today we are hearing from both an expert on manliness […]

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Dec
5

Are You Paying Attention?

On Saturday night, Michael (being the amazing husband he is) ran out to pick up dinner. Mexican—exactly what I was craving. Burritos in tow, he walked out of Moe’s and noticed a man leaning over a woman’s car talking to her. He sensed something amiss and walked over. “Hey…Is there a problem?” “Yea man. My […]

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Nov
30

All the Single Ladies: Where have all the men gone?

Yesterday, one of my co-workers said she was doing ‘damage control’ as she voraciously poured over the dating book known as The Rules. She’s one of the MANY beautiful single twenty-something women I work with. And know. Why does it feel like everywhere we go there are incredible, accomplished, & attractive single women–with no available […]

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Nov
28

Thanksgiving | A New Family

Thanksgiving has never been my favorite holiday, but this year I fell in love with an aspect I’d never before appreciated about the holiday: family time simply centered around slowing down from the busyness of life to be together. I clearly married into the right family, because at 7:30 on Thanksgiving morning we were all […]

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Nov
22

Mo’ Money Mo’ Problems | On Learning Generosity

Money and sex–the top reasons couples get divorced. Michael and I returned from our honeymoon at the peak of marital bliss; only to look closely at the fact that our wedding drained both of our savings accounts and we probably couldn’t have chosen a worse time financially to get married. I was admittedly a little […]

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