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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Cover

    Monday, March 11, 2013

    Check out our cover! Real Men Don’t Text will be at a bookstore near you in September. Michael & I can’t wait to share it with all of you. Just a few more weeks until we’re done with edits. I want to squeal in anticipation of not seeing 5am, or sitting in front of a […]

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    The Separation of Church and Hate

    Monday, February 4, 2013

    It was one of those tough moments where the air feels oppressive and you start to sweat. A good friend sat across from me on my couch, fumbling with her rings. She had just broken the news to me: “I’m getting a divorce”. It felt weighty, even unbelievable. As she sat on my couch and […]

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  • Girl Hiding

    Your Body is Not the Problem

    Sunday, January 27, 2013

    “Those high-school girls . . . they dress so slutty,” she said and then casually chuckled and added, “It’s a battlefield for men out there.” My entire body felt tingly and hot, as I sat quietly. I didn’t quite know why her words prompted such a strong response inside me, but I excused myself to […]

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    Learning to Celebrate

    Thursday, December 13, 2012

    “The slight turn of seasons reminds me of last fall, and it strikes me that my life has changed almost beyond recognition since then. In the process of breaking my heart, life or God or something — not that I don’t believe God moves in these ways, I just don’t want to immediately blame Him […]

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On empathy

I was harboring a secret, until I couldn’t anymore. I told a friend my story in the bathroom of a pub of sorts. It was 2008 and we’d just watched Obama win the election. I didn’t know how she’d react. My mouth stuck together as I rambled on; I needed Chapstick. I wanted to be […]

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thoughts on hope & Valentine’s Day

This is not at all how I would have written my story. I sat in the corner of a crowded restaurant, staring out the window. My heart stung from disappointment. I wanted something. I had a plan for my life. But it wasn’t working out. Months of hope that something would change was now coupled […]

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Real Men Don’t Text is $2.99 on Amazon!

Real Men Don’t Text is just $2.99 on the Kindle today! This is a HUGE deal. Will you share this post on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram? I’m not sure how long this will last, but we’d be incredibly grateful if you helped us get the word out. Tweets: #RealMenDon’tText is just $2.99 today! Don’t miss this […]

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Marriage: a dance of fragile hearts

Michael was sitting at the counter when I arrived home, shutting the January chill outside. The news of my friend who was separated from her husband left him downtrodden. Familiarity with divorce statistics doesn’t ever take away the sting of shock when someone close heads down that road. Michael sat at the counter and expressed […]

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Let’s have some fun! Dating is hard, especially when you throw ambiguous texts into the mix. I was on the radio the other day and the host said she was asked out over Words with Friends and had no idea what to say. So funny! Another girl told me she tried to text her friend […]

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What’s the wise thing to do? #AskIt

When I was in college, I (like many of my friends) read magazines, took diet pills, and skipped meals. Not a huge deal in the scheme of bad habits. But after several years of reading Cosmo and Self, taking diet pills, and trying to skip meals, I realized I wasn’t headed to a place where […]

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Daring Greatly | Book Recommendation

  “When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, […]

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I sinned yesterday

I’ve received several emails after talking about drinking too much on New Year’s Eve. Many people wanted to know why I put myself in that situation and why I admitted being hungover. Let me start by saying, that writing that post was difficult. In fact, I fought writing the post all day and woke up […]

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McDonalds on New Year’s Day

I ate McDonalds for breakfast on New Year’s Day. Yes, I was hungover. At 1pm the day before, do you know what I had planned for January 1st? I would wake up early, start training for my first marathon, finish a work project, deep clean my house, organize my pantry, make a budget, and write […]

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Top 10 Posts of 2013

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas! I was so overwhelmed by the comments, shares, and emails from my recent post about Phil Robertson, that I felt I needed a hiatus from blogging. After my post hit 50,000 readers in less than 48 hours, I was overwhelmed and decided the best way to handle it […]

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