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    stop quitting

    Monday, February 2, 2015

    We all have the tendency to be quitters. We quit when things get hard, quit when we don’t feel like it, quit when there’s opposition, and quit because it’s Tuesday. But why do we quit? Sometimes it’s because we allow people’s words to make us feel like we don’t have what it takes. Like we’re […]

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    big thighs, blue dresses, and self-love

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014

    Under the bright dressing-room lights at Target, I try on countless outfits. I am seven months pregnant. My body looks different now with new curves and indentions and a belly that swells each day. “I am really pregnant” I think and put on long blue dress, hoping it won’t look as bad as the others. I turn […]

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  • girl with a map

    What do you really want?

    Tuesday, July 29, 2014

    What do you really want? It is a husband? A job? A group of friends? A healthy baby? A certain life path? It’s a simple question, but one I think we avoid asking because we’re afraid of speaking aloud the answer. Because when we don’t want anything, then we can’t get our hopes up, which in […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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  • man giving flowers

    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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  • couple on a bench

    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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  • Bride and bridesmaid

    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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  • sexy selfie

    A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

    Wednesday, September 11, 2013

      (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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It's a Wonderful Life
Dec
17

8 lessons about romance in It’s a Wonderful Life

“George Bailey, I’ll love you ‘til the day I die.” Mary leans over the counter and whispers in George’s ear. Only he doesn’t hear her, because he can’t hear out of his right ear. Mary has her heart set on George from a young age. She sees his strong character up close and personal when […]

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Brene Brown Ted Talk
Dec
16

The Courage to be Imperfect

I recently discovered Brene Brown, a researcher storyteller that gave a Ted Talk  on vulnerability and shame, courage and imperfection, that is so extraordinary I have since watched four times. It’s had 12+ million views, if that helps convince you to watch it. The holidays are the perfect time to talk about being imperfect, are they […]

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Singles dating holidays
Dec
10

A Single’s Guide to Surviving the Holidays

Oh, yes. The dreaded question from your relatives, your mom, that girl from high school who has “the perfect life”, and the randoms at holiday parties. “Why are you still single?” Or maybe they ask, “Are you dating anyone?” or “What’s new in your love life?”, some variation of the same question that makes you […]

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Photo Credit: ASU
Dec
9

Wounded healer? Or truth zinger?

She shared how her dad chastised her for not praying enough, listening to daily sermons, considering her ‘witness’ as she dressed each morning, among others. She was struggling with her self-worth and couldn’t find firm footing in her new faith. My dad has always been perfect and I spent four years drinking and partying and […]

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Lockers
Dec
4

Change the Story

6th grade for me was discovering that I was a ‘late bloomer’, that a lack of athletic talent could be remedied by hard work, that I shouldn’t walk in front of certain boys who liked to pop bra straps, and that decorating your locker and having friends to eat lunch with were what determined “cool”. […]

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American dream
Dec
2

Morality, the American Dream, & the Life You’ve Always Wanted

It’s ok to have multiple sexual partners as long as you’re using protection. It’s ok to lie to your boss as long as it’s good for your long-term career. It’s her problem if she gets attached, just have fun. It’s your body, do whatever you want with it. You’re committed so what the Bible says […]

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God hasn't forgotten you
Nov
26

God hasn’t forgotten you

Michael and I are driving home. Biting rain is hitting the windshield, but we press on. As wind through the mountains of North Carolina, I close my eyes and pray about what to say. “What do people need to hear, Dad?” The rain drummed on, but I had my answer. “Remind them that I haven’t […]

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fall
Nov
20

fear, dreams, & risking the unknown

An unusually warm day in November nudged me out the door for a run. I planned to run my usual course: down to the park, left turn by my favorite coffee shop, past all the beautiful homes and quaint restaurants and shops on a main street in town, down Music Row on 17th, and then […]

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couple talking
Nov
18

His or Hers? Whose career is more important?

  It’s a conversation that doesn’t start with asking the question outright. It starts with a job offer, maybe the desire for a new career, talk of graduate school, or any number of life-path defining choices–and suddenly you’re talking around whose career takes precedence without really meaning to. This tension, the push and pull of figuring […]

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Real Men Don't Text Better Show
Nov
11

That time The Deans were on TV

Most of the time being a writer is not the least bit glamorous. But on occasion you get to buy fancy clothes and put on bright red lipstick and hop on a plane to New York. I tell you, it is the absolute strangest feeling to see yourself on TV. It’s similar to hearing your […]

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