Dear Ladies, When this article popped up on the Christianity Today blog for women last week calling my post a ‘Cosmo checklist’, a prime example of how *not to help single women, I felt terrible! I want to apologize if my post 10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You made you feel at fault for your [...]

  What could possibly have gone wrong? I wondered, pondered, prayed, and even once yelled hoping my empty apartment would provide an answer. The date was perfect from my opinion, he even said he ‘couldn’t wait to see me again”. The first few days after the date, I entered an intense period of self-examination. The kind of [...]

“I’ve just come out of a bad relationship and I’m wondering if it’s too early to start dating again?”  “I was sexually abused as a child . . . and I didn’t realize until recently how much it affects my life. Do you have any advice?”  “My boyfriend pressured me to have sex with him [...]

On Saturday at the Vandy/UT game, I got in a fight, well not a fist fight, more like a verbal confrontation. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to punch the guy, but I did get to give him a piece of my mind. I’m still heated just thinking about it. My amazing father-in-law came in town and [...]

Happy Friday! Thank you everyone who wrote in and asked a question this weekend about dating & relationships. We’re thrilled for our book, Real Men Don’t Text, and are grateful for each of your kind words. And the winners are . . .Drum. Roll. Please. Renee (Runner Up) ”So exciting! I’ve been reading your blog for [...]

Michael and I are going to be authors! Real, published, coffee-addicted, “have you read my book?” authors. Can you believe it? Last February, Michael whisked me away to a chic hotel in downtown Nashville for what he called “a writing retreat”. We spent two days dreaming up what it would look like to write a [...]

“This is one of the hardest emails I have ever written…I am swallowing my pride and facing my fears. I am asking for help.” Her email immediately caught my attention. Opening it, I discovered my dear friend Leslie was at the end of herself and was desperate for something, anything, to change. In one of [...]

“If you say that one more time, I’m going to be angry,” she said, and seemed to grip the steering wheel a little tighter. “Say what?” I asked and she reminded me of a very important part of Chinese culture that slipped my mind. Saying, “thank you”, especially repeatedly, is basically like saying, “I know [...]

“My goal is not to win the race, rank the highest, push the hardest, or stay up the latest.” I told my friend, almost regretting the words. We live in a culture where the busiest person wins, where if you want to accomplish your dreams, you need to squeeze in your passion between working 50 [...]

I’ve prayed a lot lately, attempting to reach God over the noisiness of my life. Last Sunday, I finally felt like He turned down the volume around me and sat with me. Just right next to me on the sofa. After a while, I felt His quiet voice–not scolding me for not doing as I’m [...]