A Single’s Guide to Surviving the Holidays

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Oh, yes. The dreaded question from your relatives, your mom, that girl from high school who has “the perfect life”, and the randoms at holiday parties. “Why are you still single?” Or maybe they ask, “Are you dating anyone?” or “What’s new in your love life?”, some variation of the same question that makes you […]

Dear Mr. Valentine

Michael and Ruthie Dean

Dear Mr. Valentine, please don’t make my amazing readers who are disheartened that they are alone feel terrible today. They have already been chosen and I’d appreciate if you stopped filling their minds with lies about their worth. Yours Truly, R.D. Happy Valentine’s Day from The Deans! I had the utmost privilege of speaking at […]

Stop Blaming Men for Your Singleness

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I’ve been accused of many things on the web (don’t we bloggers subject ourselves to much criticism?), but two weeks ago saw a first: Regular Her.meneutics contributor Sharon Hodde Miller compared my personal blog post “10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You,” excerpted from the bookHave Him at Hello, to a “Cosmo checklist,” calling it a prime […]

40 and Single | One Man’s Story

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Today we have a guest post from my friend, John Gunter. John loves his life in Asia, but misses his family, friends, church, baseball, and bar-b-que (in that order) immensely.  He enjoys scuba diving when the time and location permits. John blogs at http://johngunter.net. As we walked through a park in an unfamiliar city, it was a clear day.  She jumped right […]

How *Not to Help All the Single Ladies | A Clarification

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Dear Ladies, When this article popped up on the Christianity Today blog for women last week calling my post a ‘Cosmo checklist’, a prime example of how *not to help single women, I felt terrible! I want to apologize if my post 10 Reasons He’s Not Calling You made you feel at fault for your […]

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The Notebook Rain Scene

“He’s just not who I pictured myself marrying” a friend recently told me after she just told me all the reasons her man was marriage material. “Wait—why? What do you mean?” I asked confused. “Well, I just keep trying to find flaws in him and poke holes in our relationship. He’s just not tall and […]

(Don’t be) Satisfied with Singleness

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Once you are content with your singleness and grasp that God may call you to be single forever—then, and only then, will God bring you a spouse. When you surrender your desire to get married (i.e. cut your heart out) then God will fulfill your desire for a family. How many of you have heard […]

“Do You Have a Boyfriend?” | A Guest Post

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Today’s post will resonate with many of my single readers. How often do people ask about your relational status and make you feel like that is the entirety of who you are? I’m thrilled Krista wrote in with this guest post today. Bio: Krista McKinney is a Nashville native currently living in Texas. Her newest […]

What if I Never Get Married? The Feared Call of Singleness

“If God calls me to singleness, I’m not answering,” my sister said to me. I remember when a well-meaning woman told me rather callously I needed to stop ‘being boy crazy’ and know that God might never give me a husband. Can we stop telling people they might be called to singleness? After my post, All the […]

If I’m so “pretty & awesome”…why isn’t anyone asking me out?

Last week, I wrote Never Have I Ever : Unveiling Promiscuity where I discussed pain as a driving reason behind promiscuity. Daddy issues & sexual abuse were two of the stories I heard over and over from promiscuous women. Today, I want to continue the discussion–because I believe it is vital to understand another component […]