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    stop quitting

    Monday, February 2, 2015

    We all have the tendency to be quitters. We quit when things get hard, quit when we don’t feel like it, quit when there’s opposition, and quit because it’s Tuesday. But why do we quit? Sometimes it’s because we allow people’s words to make us feel like we don’t have what it takes. Like we’re […]

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  • woman in mirror

    big thighs, blue dresses, and self-love

    Tuesday, September 9, 2014

    Under the bright dressing-room lights at Target, I try on countless outfits. I am seven months pregnant. My body looks different now with new curves and indentions and a belly that swells each day. “I am really pregnant” I think and put on long blue dress, hoping it won’t look as bad as the others. I turn […]

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  • girl with a map

    What do you really want?

    Tuesday, July 29, 2014

    What do you really want? It is a husband? A job? A group of friends? A healthy baby? A certain life path? It’s a simple question, but one I think we avoid asking because we’re afraid of speaking aloud the answer. Because when we don’t want anything, then we can’t get our hopes up, which in […]

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    Real Men Don’t Text Book Club

    Wednesday, November 6, 2013

    I’ve received several emails from people saying how great Real Men Don’t Text is to talk through as a group. One group even invited me to join them for their last study. How fun! If you are in a book club, at a college, in a Bible study, a youth leader, a mom in a […]

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  • man giving flowers

    Forgiveness Won’t Fix Your Toxic Relationship

    Monday, November 4, 2013

    I recently had coffee with a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship. Every time she was ready to leave him after an outburst, he would return the next day and apologize profusely, sometimes with flowers or big displays of affection, begging her for forgiveness. After her somewhat unemotional description of his violent behavior, she asked […]

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  • couple on a bench

    16 Things Every Woman Should Know How to Say to a Man

    Monday, October 21, 2013

    The worst thing a woman can be in a relationship? Silent. But the art of expressing ourselves in living words, not typed ones, proves increasingly challenging. Here are 16 things I, like many of you, wish I learned to say to a man right as I came of age instead of a decade too late. […]

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  • Texting

    Are You Wearing Text Goggles?

    Wednesday, October 16, 2013

    As a millennial, I understand the appeal of the text message. It’s easy, convenient, non-threatening, and can be ignored. I have texted guys to suggest a hang out when I hadn’t heard from them in a while; I have received tweets, texts, and emails from men for last-minute ‘dates’ that never seemed to work out […]

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  • Bride and bridesmaid

    When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

    Wednesday, October 9, 2013

    Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

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  • sexy selfie

    A Letter to Sexy-Instagram Posters

    Wednesday, September 11, 2013

      (This letter is in response to this controversial letter to a teenage girl from a mom who blocks sexy-posters her from her sons’ social media feeds. Dear Sexy-Instagram Poster, I see you. That feels like a good place to start. I see how you long to be beautiful, to be told you are beautiful. […]

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    Men: This is How You Ask Her Out

    Tuesday, September 3, 2013

    Real Men Don’t Text is officially available today everywhere books are sold! Michael wrote this post for the men out there who want to date differently, but don’t know where to start.  Spoiler alert: it will start with a plan and a phone call. When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: […]

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valentine's day
Feb
13

thoughts on hope & Valentine’s Day

This is not at all how I would have written my story. I sat in the corner of a crowded restaurant, staring out the window. My heart stung from disappointment. I wanted something. I had a plan for my life. But it wasn’t working out. Months of hope that something would change was now coupled […]

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Real Men Don't Text
Feb
10

Real Men Don’t Text is $2.99 on Amazon!

Real Men Don’t Text is just $2.99 on the Kindle today! This is a HUGE deal. Will you share this post on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram? I’m not sure how long this will last, but we’d be incredibly grateful if you helped us get the word out. Tweets: #RealMenDon’tText is just $2.99 today! Don’t miss this […]

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marriage
Feb
3

Marriage: a dance of fragile hearts

Michael was sitting at the counter when I arrived home, shutting the January chill outside. The news of my friend who was separated from her husband left him downtrodden. Familiarity with divorce statistics doesn’t ever take away the sting of shock when someone close heads down that road. Michael sat at the counter and expressed […]

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real men don't text promotion
Jan
21

#worsttextever

Let’s have some fun! Dating is hard, especially when you throw ambiguous texts into the mix. I was on the radio the other day and the host said she was asked out over Words with Friends and had no idea what to say. So funny! Another girl told me she tried to text her friend […]

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ask it andy stanley
Jan
20

What’s the wise thing to do? #AskIt

When I was in college, I (like many of my friends) read magazines, took diet pills, and skipped meals. Not a huge deal in the scheme of bad habits. But after several years of reading Cosmo and Self, taking diet pills, and trying to skip meals, I realized I wasn’t headed to a place where […]

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Brene Brown quote
Jan
10

Daring Greatly | Book Recommendation

  “When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, […]

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light and dark
Jan
5

I sinned yesterday

I’ve received several emails after talking about drinking too much on New Year’s Eve. Many people wanted to know why I put myself in that situation and why I admitted being hungover. Let me start by saying, that writing that post was difficult. In fact, I fought writing the post all day and woke up […]

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mcdonalds
Jan
3

McDonalds on New Year’s Day

I ate McDonalds for breakfast on New Year’s Day. Yes, I was hungover. At 1pm the day before, do you know what I had planned for January 1st? I would wake up early, start training for my first marathon, finish a work project, deep clean my house, organize my pantry, make a budget, and write […]

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fireworks
Dec
30

Top 10 Posts of 2013

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas! I was so overwhelmed by the comments, shares, and emails from my recent post about Phil Robertson, that I felt I needed a hiatus from blogging. After my post hit 50,000 readers in less than 48 hours, I was overwhelmed and decided the best way to handle it […]

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Phil Robertson
Dec
20

Dear Christians defending Phil Robertson

Phil Robertson’s interview with GQ Magazine has ruffled quite a few feathers. If it wasn’t enough that he discussed race and culture in an offensive way, he went on to compare homosexuality to bestiality. People are angry. Spit-fire comments and debates have filled up my news feeds. I’m sad seeing how the body of Christ […]

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