Mr. Late Night & Mr. Last Minute
Mr. Late Night
It may start innocently at first, a late rendezvous here and there, but pretty soon the only time you’re spending together is after dark. It used to be a booty call, but now it’s more frequently a “booty text”. {creative, right?} If you ever receive a text message late at night that consists of asking you where you are, what you are doing, and if you want to come over—these messages are for one purpose and one purpose only: Sex. No he isn’t dying to see a movie—he is dying to see you naked. If a man wants to get to know you, he will make plans to do so, and will not wait until late at night to see where you are. HE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU IF THE ONLY TIME HE WANTS TO SEE YOU IS AFTER DARK. Some women believe they can catch a man by bedding him in one of these late night situations—but I have yet to hear a story of a happily married couple who started with “booty call” texts. Please spend some time
Mr. Last Minute
If a man cannot make plans with you in advance, then he is not worth your time. However, it may just be a planning issue. If you receive a call and especially a text message about plans in the next 5 hours, you are always busy. If he says, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?” Your response can be, “I’d love to, but I already made plans. I would love to see you another time.” This response tells him that a.) you are not desperate nor are you waiting around for him to call and b.) shows interest, so he knows you aren’t rejecting him—just his poor planning. Don’t rearrange your schedule for a man who only makes you an afterthought.
If he texts you, “What are you doing tonight?” you can respond with your plans (and make some up if you don’t have any) and then say, “I’m a little old-fashioned and don’t love text messaging. But I’d love to see you again and get to know you over the phone.” If he runs, then you answered your “is he ‘the One’?” question easily.
Your text-buddy-boyfriend-friend is sending you clear signals. If he’s not calling you, he doesn’t like you. He’s not intimidated. He hasn’t lost your number. The only exception is if he is deaf or mute. Period. Do you want to continue to let him string you along until he finds someone he likes better? I didn’t think so—you are worth a d*%@ phone call!
Don’t forget about Mr. Promised He Would Call & Mr. Inconsistent.
Have you dated Mr. Last Minute or Mr. Late Night? Have you discovered they were open to change? Please comment because others can learn from your stories, questions, and comments!
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Ruthie, I am loving your blog, and your wisdom.
Hi Friend! Thank you for your continual encouragement. There are definitely days when I think “why am I doing this? Does this writing really matter?” Miss you!
I follow your blog and enjoy it, especially the blunt honesty toward relationships that are just plain stupid.
I don’t really understand the unnecessary cussing at the end of this post. It is contrary to the Christian thread through some of your posts and could be confusing to unbelievers (it is confusing for me as a believer).
Hi Laura, your concern is noted. I changed the last sentence. Thanks for reading my blog!
Ruthie,
Guys hate getting busted, in fact, would never admit to it. Even though you are doing a service for women who need the input, you are in big danger if your advice works. There will be no future basis for chick-flicks. Bummer.
This is great. I remember it from He’s Just Not That Into You. It’s actually a great read even thought it’s wisdom is worldly.
I love that book. LOVE IT!
your writing does matter. another great post! woman are worth a d@#% phone call. haha.
thanks! yes, I was feeling passionate when I wrote this post:)
I’ve been feeling pretty passionate about this topic myself recently! Great post Ruthie!
Reminds me of someone…we were to meet at 5.30pm, that is after work. Dude didn’t show up and told me he was still on the way coming. Where we were to meet was a walking distance from my place. It reached 9pm and he told me he was like 20 minutes away. Told him to go back to where he was coming from and I wasn’t going to see him. I figured the reason he delayed was because he thought I was going to allow him to my house at that time of the night. We haven’t had a good relationship since and of course…he has never asked to see me at night.
Love your articles.