What great husbands are made of

Today is my third wedding anniversary. I vividly remember walking down the aisle towards Michael, thinking, “I can’t believe he chose me. I can’t believe he chose me”. I felt unworthy of such a great man. I didn’t have the faintest notion of what the future held as no one does, but I wasn’t worried. I […]

Marriage: a dance of fragile hearts

Michael was sitting at the counter when I arrived home, shutting the January chill outside. The news of my friend who was separated from her husband left him downtrodden. Familiarity with divorce statistics doesn’t ever take away the sting of shock when someone close heads down that road. Michael sat at the counter and expressed […]

8 lessons about romance in It’s a Wonderful Life

“George Bailey, I’ll love you ‘til the day I die.” Mary leans over the counter and whispers in George’s ear. Only he doesn’t hear her, because he can’t hear out of his right ear. Mary has her heart set on George from a young age. She sees his strong character up close and personal when […]

When God gives her a husband and you’re still single

Bride and bridesmaid

Her email landed in my inbox just after 2am. “How could God give her a husband and not me?  I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. She’s cleaned up her act recently but she’s only spent 6 […]

When It Isn’t Clear He’s ‘the One’

is he the one?

“Dear Ruthie, I recently came across your post “How Do I Know if He’s The One?” and it really opened my eyes to my current relationship. When I see some of his personality I know that he probably isn’t the one that I should be with. But he is so selfless and is always putting […]

2 Years, My Love

You carried my backpack for miles on this hike in the Alps (such a servant).

Dearest Husband, It was just two short years ago that we said “I do” under the birch trees in your parent’s backyard. It’s hard to believe isn’t it? These past two years have been so full of joy. My heart overflows just thinking about how lucky I am to be your wife; to laugh our […]

9 Steps to a Happier Relationship

couple in a boat

“Marriage is just THE BEST. Why didn’t I do this sooner?” “Nothing about our relationship is easy. It’s become like pulling teeth to get him to engage with me.” I talked to two friends over the weekend and took note of their very different feelings about marriage. I’m always wary to write about marriage, because […]

Laughter Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

Michael and Ruthie

With one year of marriage under our belts, Michael and I are far from pros. We are still stumbling our way towards deeper love and by no means have all the answers. However, we do know if there is anything that draws us closer and feeds our soul it is laughter. We celebrated our one year wedding […]

This Momentary Marriage

Pray for Ian Desiring God Video

Marriage. It feels like the end-all, be-all, but is it really? What if marriage is just temporary? I spent a lot of time with my friend Natalie this weekend & we naturally talked a great deal about marriage {she’s dating a great man!}. She asked for wisdom, asked what it was like, and wanted to […]

You’re Dating Mrs. Wrong If. . .

Mrs. Wrong--Kids kissing

Gentlemen, it is a pleasure to write to you today. This is not coming from a man who has it right, has done it all right, or will do it right in the future. This is coming from experience, and that experience has taught me a few things about relationships, women, the type of woman […]